The other evening, a man got out of his car in front of our house and filled the night air with a torrent of profanities. He was not happy. The object of his frustration was not me, nor was it the heavy equipment that crossed the road where the road had been dug up. The real reason was deep inside him.
He had just successfully evaded two detour signs, five “Road Closed – local traffic only” signs, three caution banners strung partially across the road and a wooden barricade – only to find that the road closure included him. How dare they do that to him!
It is common to ignore rules, signs and advice if it can be seen that others are getting away with it as well. You just have to look at all the young people with low self-esteem who are just starting to smoke cigarettes or those who consume large amounts of junk food to see how warnings are scoffed at. Personal priorities like fitting in with their peers seem far more important.
Eventually, however, when we have been brought to a stop by enough dead-ends, have ranted long enough about how unfairly we have been treated, and have banged our heads against the wall until sense finally trickles in, we come to accept that the way we have been doings things is just not working.
This method of learning is one that I followed for many years – one filled with frustrations. Like the man I referred to, I was never happy with this route in life.
It is such a blessing to discover that it is never too late to start your life over again – to try a new approach where the advice of those who have gone before us is considered. Most importantly, we must learn to still our hearts and minds so we can feel and hear the voice of guidance that lives within us all.
I no longer see obstacles and barriers as something to be defeated in some way. Instead, they are signposts to remind me that I have choices in life and it is up to me to find the best route. They also teach me patience which is a key component of being happy.