I recall times from my dark and dismal past when I would be at a party with a drink in my hand and someone would ask me if my dog had just died. I was surprised to be asked such a question as I thought I was having a good time. My self-esteem was very low and I guess my defense shields were showing. I had no idea how to break out of the habits I had formed which prevented me from behaving like normal people. Many people referred to me as “Stoneface.” I was a long way from being “Happy” Haddy back then.
I now approach life very differently.
I enjoy the solitude of the early morning as it is when my mind is fresh and I get the most done. For others, it is a struggle – a time when the body seems uncoordinated and the brain is reluctantly getting into gear. Some find it difficult to even think of making choices so early in the day but that is precisely what I want to share with you – A Great Way to Start Your Day.
Alright now, you have just woken up, stumbled into the bathroom and had a pee without mishap (hopefully). Now what? You go to the sink and wash your hands and have a look in the mirror. What do you see? Your hair is a mess (providing you have hair), your mouth doesn’t feel sparkling fresh and your face doesn’t look ready to display to company. What should you do next?
Smile. Yes, that’s right, give that person in the mirror a big silly grin or whatever you can manage and hold it for at least a minute. This has remarkable benefits.
Not only do you look better when you smile but the very act of doing so releases serotonin – a neurotransmitter involved with feelings of happiness and well-being. Learning to smile when you greet people (including yourself), makes you much more approachable. First impressions derive from it and people feel much more encouraged to reach out to you. It works wonders in banishing your own discouragement which you might have felt when you crawled out of bed. You are starting to feel a little better already, aren’t you.
Then greet yourself out loud. Give yourself a big “Good Morning” along with that smile. Things are really starting to look up.
Next, tell yourself with conviction:
Who are you thanking? If you believe in God or have a relationship with a god of your understanding, direct your gratitude there. Otherwise, direct your gratitude to that deep, inner voice that has guided you from the time you were born. If that still seems too far out for you, just thank that person in the mirror who is smiling at you. Gratitude is a powerful tool which distracts you from whatever negativity you might have been setting yourself up for. It keeps you living in the now.
You have it within your power to change the way you start your day and the way you live your life. Don’t allow your low self-esteem to hold you back. You are far more powerful than you can imagine.
“Use those talents you have. You will make it. You will give joy to the world. Take this tip from nature: The woods would be a very silent place if no birds sang except those who sang best.” – Bernard Meltzer