In a previous post I mentioned how we men have a STUPID Place in our brains that can get us in a lot of trouble. Women do a lot of silly things but the really STUPID things they do usually has to do with their involvement with men (such as their belief they will be able to change their man once they are married). The old saying about not being able to make a silk purse from a sow’s ear comes to mind.
Men are far more reckless and willing to take chances even though the odds are stacked against us. I have a number of scars I am responsible for from lessons learned the hard way. Sometimes these are the life lessons one remembers the most. Surviving the incident without major injuries becomes key.
There are basically three kinds of STUPID, the first of which is deliberate and intended to be funny or to prove something. For instance, a friend of mine in the army and I used to have slapping contests starting off gentle and getting stronger each time. The idea was to see who would quit first. My face would hurt something awful, I would feel BIG TIME STUPID, but we thought it was fun.
Women often don’t understand this kind of reasoning and usually don’t enjoy the antics of The Three Stooges either.
The second way of using the word STUPID is in a derogatory manner to put someone down for their words or actions. This just reflects the user’s impatience or intolerance and is a way of lashing out.
The third kind of STUPID, which is the focus of this post, is the one derived from ignorance, of not understanding. We just do not understand what we have not been taught.
The word STUPID comes from a Latin adjective meaning stunned or amazed which suggests that the person’s mind is numbed. STUPIDITY can be defined as showing a lack of judgement, reasoning or wit. It can come about through an inability to let go of self-centered ideas and concepts that obviously do not work – addictions, intolerance, racism, etc.
We should always feel responsible for our actions and be prepared to make amends, face the consequences or whatever outcome may ensue. What we do not need to do, however, is beat ourselves up over it. That comment may surprise you.
I firmly believe that everyone is always doing the best they can. According to a post in MIRROR from the U.K., the average person will make 773,618 decisions over a lifetime – and will come to regret 143,262 of them.
Decisions are made by making choices based on whatever information, pressures and biases are going on at any particular moment. Sometimes, a few moments later, we would have chosen differently. We truly are works in progress.
It is an unfortunate fact that when we are sad, angry, lonely or tired, we often STUPIDLY respond to challenges by repeating what already did not work. Regardless of whether it is pigging out on a box of chocolates, a gallon of ice cream, drugs, alcohol or whatever, it is all we know how to do. That is hardly the way to act in a responsible manner.
It becomes an endless cycle that only makes life worse.
At some point, being responsible for our lives needs to become a priority. We need to accept that we have not grasped a better way of dealing with life’s challenges, that we are in a downward spiral, and we are heading for disaster.
Do not despair. You are not alone. Many people face this situation. The first step in changing your life is to be responsible, to accept that you are making too many stupid mistakes that are creating havoc in your life. Only then, can you start to make the necessary changes.
Stay tuned. . .
“The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits.”~Albert Einstein