We are all responsible for how we have dealt with our past, how we are currently living, and what future we are attracting.
To what extent do you feel responsible for how your life has turned out?
Think for a moment about all the things that held you back or even caused you to fail. Many were caused by actions outside of your control and may have brought about major changes in your life. Yes, they may have been someone else’s fault and, yes, it may have been quite unfair. In spite of that, you are still responsible for your reaction and your behaviour. It is, after all, YOUR life. You may well not enjoy the things you are experiencing but they are present because you have been programmed to subconsciously want them.
Whoa! That doesn’t sound right, does it? You couldn’t possibly have wanted all the loud-mouthed jerks, the losers, the control freaks and all the other disagreeable people you have known who have affected your life. Nor could you have attracted many of the health problems and other challenges you have faced. How could you be responsible for doing that to yourself?
The answer lies in your subconscious. Ask yourself what benefits you have received from all your troubles, what was their purpose in your life?
Let’s examine this from a different perspective. As the often used quotation from the I Ching states, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Perhaps what you need to ask yourself is what you actually want to have in your life.
When I was young, I was responsible for all sorts of problems brought about by my low self-esteem. I was defiant, controlling, resentful and at times belligerent. That was how I saw the world – an unfriendly, suspicious place full of pitfalls. There were many things I felt a need to rectify. What I was subconsciously doing was attracting through my thoughts and actions different ways to prove how strong and capable I was. Why did I need to prove that? Because I lived in fear and wore a mask to not let others know I was whistling in the dark. I now am strong and capable but I had to learn that in a much different way.
I recall a woman who, faced with a marital failure, became a walking disaster zone. She had a bad fall, she cut herself quite severely while preparing dinner and had a number of other injurious incidents. In time, she met a new man, was happily married, and no longer kept getting hurt. Subconsciously, she had been looking for someone to look after her, to no longer face life alone.
Take a look at your life and whatever challenges you have faced. Were you responsible for bringing them about? Think deeply about it.
It is up to you to accept the task of being responsible for bringing about positive changes in your life. Keep it in mind, however, that if you do not change what your subconscious has programmed you for, you will receive more of the same challenges that will dog you until you do.
“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.”
― Gautama Buddha