Do you set goals for yourself but lack the motivation to achieve them? Are you wishy-washy in the way you get things done? Do you just wait and see whether what you want in life will magically appear? Do you think your fairy godmother is responsible for making you happy?
That sounds like the way I lived many years ago. I relied on luck, which I had very little of, to determine my success. It was a very poor plan, in fact, it was no plan at all. I was very unhappy, frequently upset, desperately lonely and getting nowhere fast. My victim thinking held me back from achieving anything.
Motivation is the crucial element in setting and achieving goals. Without goals, you are nothing more than a leaf blowing in the wind or a stick floating in the water. Where you will wind up is left to the hands of fate.
Motivation doesn’t just happen someday on its own. It has to be part of a strategy to improve your life. You would like you life to improve, wouldn’t you?
You could put that off until you win the lottery, or you find the right app to amuse yourself, or you could tell your problems to your social media friends, or you could wait and see whether your luck will change, or you could take the bull by the horns and make the changes in your life to ensure that WILL HAPPEN. No one else will do it for you.
That’s right! Motivation is the sincere desire to get things done. Unless you are motivated to achieve what you are after, your chances of achieving it are slim.
If things are not working out in your life, there are always just two reasons why. You are either not doing something you should, or you are doing something you should not. You need to find the motivation to improve your life (you do want to be happy, don’t you?) and you should stop waiting for your fairy godmother to do it for you.
After the trials and hardships life presented me, I longed for the happiness I witnessed in others. With determination and a great deal of help, I have accomplished that. I had to power through the pain period and become the man I never knew I could be – positive, upbeat and willing to help others.
One of the things I had definitely done wrong was to think and act like a victim. I had to learn to think and behave like a winner. I had to find the motivation to be happy and realize that would only happen through change.
Using the SMART plan (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant and Time-bound), I did a thorough self inventory and got honest with myself. We are all pretty much aware of what we are doing wrong in life whether it be laziness, dishonesty, lack of respect or whatever. With the knowledge that they all contributed to my unhappiness, I set out to correct them.
You cannot change the habits and attitudes of a lifetime over night, but you can become keenly aware of them and get to work to lessen their hold on you. Motivation is definitely the key here as you do not want discouragement or procrastination to take hold once more.
Your happiness relies on keeping your plan active and ongoing.
Once I allowed myself to be happy, more and more opportunities presented themselves. One day at a time, you can too. Write down your objectives and celebrate small victories as they occur. Don’t allow setbacks to deter you from your course of action.
Allow those changes to happen so you, too, can move on and find happiness.
“When defeat comes, accept it as a signal that your plans are not sound, rebuild those plans, and set sail once more toward your coveted goal.”
― Napoleon Hill,