Your subconscious may sound like a boring topic but it is one that determines how you live your life. It is well worth getting to know about it and how you can improve it.
When people set goals for themselves, they are usually about having or doing. For example, you might want to have more money or do something special on your vacation. There is nothing wrong with that. I hope you succeed. Of course, they might not happen for a number of reasons beyond your control.
They might also not happen for reasons within your control.
Having and doing are both products of your conscious brain, but for them to succeed, they must be endorsed by your subconscious. Yes, that is the part of you that might be imprinted with low self-esteem, frustration and feelings of being a loser.
Great ideas might come to you, ones you know would work out and your life would improve. You are determined to follow through, and then . . . you fail again. Why is that?
It is the role of the subconscious to filter the plans and ideas you are about to implement. You would not survive without it. It protects you from repeatedly doing really stupid things (most of the time) and helps you to bring to fruition the ones that will help you to succeed. It cannot, however, come up with the plans on its own. That is the function of the conscious mind.
The subconscious mind can be our safeguard but it cannot reason. If a person has always dealt with stress by reacting with anger, becoming depressed or by using drugs, the subconscious mind will offer those solutions as the only ones which have worked in the past. They are the only ones it knows. When you have dumb ideas, supported by a resource bank of poor solutions, failure is inevitable.
I lived that way for many years and grew to hate everything about it.
The solution lies in re-programming the subconscious with new positive, productive solutions while by-passing the old ones that never worked. To implement new goals and directions, the conscious mind has to first follow the S.M.A.R.T. goals formula. That stand for specific, measurable, achievable or attainable, realistic or relevant, and timely.
Once the conscious goal is set, it is important to remember that the having and doing aspects need the subconscious to see it through to completion. This is where being and feeling come in.
In my last post I wrote about Mohammad Ali stating, “I am the greatest.” He was not seeking, aspiring or having dreams about being the greatest. He was being the greatest and feeling the greatest.
That is what I do when I state that I am “Happy” Haddy. I am being and feeling happy regardless of what is happening around me and whatever anyone is saying or doing. Yes, there are occasional disturbing things happen in my life but I calmly respond and move on rather than react with anger the way I used to years ago.
Remember how powerful your subconscious is and how it determines how your life will turn out. Without the ability to reason, it will believe whatever you plant there. If you plant worry weeds, anger weeds, resentment weeds or other negative varieties, they will take root and choke out whatever goodness life may be trying to give you.
You are capable of making your life a wonderful experience. It is never too late to set higher standards for yourself, to plant your beans and corn and roses. Yes, it takes some effort but with your goal set properly, you will come to love it. See the beauty of your life as it grows and blossoms, tend to the weeds so they don’t come back, and prune away the unnecessary details that distract you.
“The subconscious mind is the guiding force for your entire life.”
― Kevin Michel,